Friday, December 18, 2015

On Priceless Toddler Moments: "Treat" Edition

Sometime in early December, after a particularly successful dinner, Mark and I decided to give Avery, then 17 months old, a "treat." Mind you, this was not her first treat.

She's had encounters of the cake kind...

The first birthday smash cake extravaganza.

And the chocolate kind...

After Mark tried to take back his chocolate croissant in Mexico
But on this night, we decided to give her a nonpareil, those little chocolate things with the tiny white sprinkles. We had a baggy of them, and we thought, what the heck, right?

So first Avery took a tentative bite. She is wary of anything new, and white sprinkles were no exception.

Then she realized it was chocolate, and proceeded to shove the entire thing in her mouth. We reminded her to take bites. So she removed the nonpareil from her mouth and started biting off chunks. Great. Back on track. #SuccessfulParenting.

Of course, the minute the last bite went into her mouth, she stuck out her hand and shrieked "TEET!" (treat). We told her she ate her treat already.

She paused for a minute and then started doing this weird gagging thing. For a minute, I thought she was choking. Then all of a sudden, out of her mouth popped two chunks of chocolate which she promptly deposited on her rubber place mat.

She pointed, screamed "TEET!" and proceeded to re-eat the regurgitated chocolate.
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Monday, December 14, 2015

On the universal language of motherhood

There are a lot of stories I could tell about our recent family trip to Mexico. But there's really only one that I feel I need to tell.

On our third full day in Puerto Vallarta, we took a late afternoon walk with Avery down the beach. On the way back to our hotel, the sun was starting to set and the beach was clearing out.

Avery, normally an enthusiastic walker, was still struggling with the effects of a cold and for once wanted me to hold her. She sat on my hip, one thumb in her mouth, the other little hand hooked around my arm, head occasionally dipping to rest on my shoulder.

As we neared our hotel, I noticed a Mexican family wrapping up their day at the beach. The mother was standing just at the edge of the surf holding her baby -- a darling little boy, not more than a year old. The father was packing up their things, gathering bags and toys and towels, but the mother looked in her own little world, so peaceful holding her baby.

As we got closer, I smiled at her (these days, I find it impossible not to smile at mothers and babies).

And then it happened.

For just a few fleeting moments we locked eyes. She returned my smile.

This woman and I probably have nothing in common beyond the fact of our motherhood. We are not citizens of the same country. We do not speak the same native language. I will never know her stories or how she came to be on the beach that day.  I will never know her name. She will never know mine. We spoke no words, and I never stopped walking.

But in that moment as we both stood holding our babies, our feet in the Pacific Ocean, the sun sinking into the water, none of that mattered. Our smiles got wider. We held each others gaze just a few beats past polite. And all of the barriers -- language, country, culture, lifetimes of stories and memories, all the trappings of "who we are" -- fell away.

In that moment, I knew her heart. And mine was known.